Hi, we are adoptive parents planning to adopt a baby girl due next month (9/20). the bmom lives in missouri and has
Hi poster, I think this is a question for your lawyer. But I did want to caution that unless you have already adopted a child, you are NOT adoptive parents. You are hopeful parents or pre-adoptive parents. Also the pregnant mom is NOT a birth mother; she is an expectant mother. She may be planning to place the child and she may go through with it but until those papers are signed, she is that baby’s mother and you are not adoptive parents.
These kinds of semantics are important both because language can be coercive (by calling a woman a birth mom before she’s given birth it’s a way of erasing her valid status as mother) and because it can set hopeful adoptive parents up for a level of entitlement that can harm the future relationship if the adoption goes through.
The woman IS a birthmother!!! she has every intetion on placing her child so she is a perspective birth mother!!!!!!!!! so as this stupid person says,,,shes "hopeful birthmother" th