Evaluate

We all develop a story on what we think is going on.It is a story with our emotions feelings and actionsWe can often be wrong how we size up and determine a situation because we are biased for our own good.We need to evaluate our part  in the situation we need to look for solutions to end the conflictWe have to clear away misunderstandings misinterpretations hurt feelingsSo we can contribute to what’s going on with the real problem. We need to walk in the shoes of others so we can see how they view the world.  Every conflict between two people has one side the other side and the truth which lies somewhere in the middle. Things become very difficult when you opened yourself up a loud people in and find out that it is actually harmed you your family and your children Because of your poor judgment in someone’s character.There are many titles that people give to each other in life husband wife brother sister and mom and dad and to me those are the most sacred titles anyone can ever have is to be mom and dad. Just because you grow a human and give birth does not make you mom nor does the fact that you contributed to the making of that child make you a dad.I kept my expectations to a minimum and didn’t ask very much choose wisely, work hard, and be honest.For the most part choosing wisely worked for a little while working hard that remains , but honesty , sadly that is not a quality or a trait that has been obtained by some.  When you use the term real mother that it’s exactly what I am I’m not fake I’m not imaginary and I’ve stayed by his side from day one a mother doesn’t sign a piece of paper and not fight for her child. So I have stepped back and evaluated my part in the situation and what I have concluded is, I put too much trust I looked blindly did not have my eyes open and I did not listen to the people around me who said things weren’t right. All I can do now is move forward be the best mom to all of my children that I Canby I am far from perfect but what I am is honestly devoted to all of them and that will never change.